Nov 2, 2012

How Should You Praise Your Children?

This article may be useful for those parents who are raising their children. Pampering your children is not bad in childhood but how you praise can define many things for children.

Mindset can be Fixed or Growth. Fixed mindset believe that their abilities are fixed whereas Grwoth  mindset people think that abilities can be developed.

An excerpt where Dweck references one of her earlier papers on effects of praising innate qualities versus effort and process (
People can also learn these self-theories from the kind of praise they receive (Mueller & Dweck, 1998). Ironically, when students are praised for their intelligence, they move toward a fixed theory. Far from raising their self-esteem, this praise makes them challenge-avoidant and vulnerable, such that when they hit obstacles their confidence, enjoyment, and performance decline. When students are praised for their effort or strategies (their process), they instead take on a more malleable theory— they are eager to learn and highly resilient in the face of difficulty.
Thus self-theories play an important (and causal role) in challenge seeking, self-regulation, and resilience, and changing self-theories appears to result in important real-world changes in how people function.

Growth mindset people are more resilient. They are better in coming out of difficult condition whereas Fixed mindset people feel less confident when face challenge.

Hope you got something from the article!